Category Archives for "Cycles"
Have you ever watched laundry drying in a tumble dryer? The cycle goes on and on, and the laundry pieces are slung into the air, carried on the hot stream and then dropped down to the bottom of the dryer. If you are that piece of laundry, the process goes on and on, and you probably soon feel battered and bruised, willing it all to stop.
However, the badgering will only stop once the cycle is complete. When the door is opened, the piece of laundry can be retrieved, with no wrinkles, feel cuddly warm and smelling fragrant. All the badgering was worth it for the piece of laundry.
That is just one view.
Have you seen those amusing videos of babies watching the dryer as if it is a movie? They are totally captivated and will sit there watching the laundry being thrown in the air and tumbling down for hours.
This is very similar to what happens in our lives – except that we are participants (like a piece of laundry) and not spectators.
We live our lives in cycles, just like every planet revolves around the sun in its own cycle and just like nature ensure that spring is followed by summer and night is followed by day.
If you go back and plot the graph of high and low times in your life you will be able to define the cycles. Some of these cycles are defined for us by society, for example the minimum years you spend in school. Other cycles are defined by economics (like a recession), or by political activities (like elections) and we slot into them.
The most fascinating cycles are those that we live as part of our life script and that are unique to us. For these cycles, we set the dial even before we are born and we also recruit our co-actors (parents, spouses, siblings, children, friends, colleagues) before we enter this world.
How do you recognise a cycle?
There are two tell-tale phases to help you understand where you are in your cycle.
The first phase that is easily recognisable, is when you feel there is no excitement left in your life. You simply live from one day to the next, (or from one cup of coffee to the next), waiting for something to happen to take the boredom away. You know in your heart of hearts that you cannot go back to where you came from, but you are not clear at all on where you are heading. This is often the case at the end of a relationship, or when you leave a job, or when a friendship fizzles out.
I like to refer to this as a no-mans-land or a dark corridor that you must get through, whether you like it or not. Even if you don’t know what is waiting for you on the other side, the only way is forward and this requires a lot of trust and faith. This phase also requires a lot of energy from you, so that you can prepare and be ready for the next phase in your life.
If you don’t understand that you are at the beginning of a new cycle, it is so easy to give in to the temptation to only look back and not look forward. You can get stuck in contemplating your navel and feeling sorry for yourself and you completely overlook the lovely opportunity to look back with gratitude and embrace the wisdom of your experience.
The other obvious indication of being in a cycle is when you start a new cycle. You work very hard – whether it is physical work, or future planning, or any other activity that you put your heart in, but you don’t see any results. In this case, you often feel physically exhausted for no valid reason and it is very easy to get down-hearted and feel that no matter what you do, you are not achieving anything. What is important, is not so much what you spend your energy on, but rather an awareness of how cycles work and where you are in terms of your own life cycles.
Remember that the earth was created in seven days? This is obviously not literal, but rather a metaphor for the creation process. You plan, think and create for six units of time (these could be days, weeks or even years). Then you are supposed to rest and wait, so that you can see your creation materialise during the seventh unit of time. Now can you see where the “unjustified” exhaustion comes from?
If you know about the cycles, then you will be kind to yourself, rest more and build up the anticipation, so that when things start to happen, you are ready to do a victory dance and say, “I told you so”.
If you don’t know about the cycles, it will be very tempting for you to fall into the trap of doubt, self-pity and feeling hopeless. Of course, you will get out of it – you always do – but the difference is that if you are not aware of the cycles, you take a little longer to notice the miracles and get going on the next exciting leg of your journey through life.
How can a psychic reading help you with either of these phases?
When you are at the end of a cycle, the reading will probably contain some of the wisdom that you have overlooked. You may be frustrated because you would want the psychic to tell you what is waiting for you in the future, and you won’t hear that. Instead, you may be advised to reflect and find your gratitude. Remember, you create your own future and you are the master of your destiny. If you only look back, then no psychic in the world will be able to create a rosy future on your behalf. You need to finish your cycle first and then you are ready to move forward.
When you are at the beginning of a new cycle, a psychic reading will probably be full of information about what is waiting for you. This will be based on your own creation and the options that are available for you. A good psychic will be able to read that private space and tell you about the options and you will intuitively understand your truth and what resonates with you.
Either way, your future does not lie in the cards, or in how good the psychic is when reading your private space, but rather in what you create for yourself based on your life script. A psychic can tell you that you may win the lottery, but if you don’t bother to buy the ticket, it will not happen. A psychic can tell you that you will meet a tall, dark and handsome prince and live happily ever after, but if you have not learned the wisdom from your past relationship, then your prince will be the same kind of person you left behind – probably with less hair, but with the same nature that drove you to the end of your previous relationship.
What can you do to move forward?
There are two easy steps that you can take so that you can move closer to your ideal future and make it happen. The first step is to look back with gratitude. If you still carry a lot of baggage from your past, ask yourself how you have gained from that same past. How have your bad experiences made you a stronger, wiser, better person? Embrace that wisdom and find the gratitude.
The second step is to start day-dreaming. Imagine your ideal future. Every time you do it, add more details, until you can see, feel, hear and taste that reality. Then ask yourself what small step you can take today so that you can get closer to your ideal reality.
And remember, the best place to be is in that dark corridor, because that means you are very close to seeing the beautiful and amazing fruits of your labour.
I was compelled to put this together today as this coming full moon is already making its presence felt. I have noticed many others being quite intensely emotionally affected by this energy and slipping somewhat into a learned response to the icky FMS (full moon syndrome) mode. (My own label for this moon phase)
I liken it a bit like pre menstrual syndrome except triggered by the influence of the impending full moon. We encounter full moon energy every 28 days and some cycles it affects us more than others. This full moon accompanied by the thin veils of Samhain is proving to be particularly potent.
This time of year is always a bit of a shift from the outward energies of spring and summer to the inward shift of autumn and winter. In autumn we begin to shed and let go what we don’t need. We begin preparation for what we do need, allowing our visions to be “conceived” in winter. With careful nurturing in winter they can grow and surface when the energies become our outward focus once more in spring.
This letting go process along with the more inwardly focussed energy can promote feelings similar to sadness. This is dependent on how we sense our energy lowering and what it brings to the surface for us. These feelings can be all be heightened when full moon energies challenge us.
Although this cycle is proving quite intense, full moon energies can be difficult at the best of times for some people. Its effects can be mild and unnoticeable to extreme. When extreme we can begin to feel there is something “wrong” with us. We can become exhausted and life feels like an emotional rollercoaster that we can’t seem to get off.
I have worked in the Mental Health sector and am acutely aware of the full moons affect on those already experiencing sensory or emotional overload.
Being an emotional empath and an Emotional Wellbeing consultant I work in the field of helping others to understand and make friends with their sensitive nature I see so many of us affected and struggling with this energy.
The moon affects the tides of the world with its magnetic pull. Our bodies are a high proportion of water (around 60%) so it is understandable that the moon influences our “waters” and “tides” too.
Emotions are technically energy in motion - like thoughts we have a constant stream of emotions flowing through us effortlessly every day. A bit like flicking through the TV channels or surfing the internet it is only the ones that we pause and interact with that have any conscious effect on us.
When we focus on a specific emotion, or more accurately focus on the thoughts that bring our awareness of that emotion. We are stopping the flow and stopping the energy in its tracks. This is when we begin to feel the physical effect of the emotion. Anxiety might produce a knot in the tummy, Sadness a feeling of heaviness in the heart area, I’m sure you get the picture. When we let the focus go, the tension and build up of energy is released no matter if it is physical, mental or emotional.
The full moon energy affects the flow of water (that links to emotions) on a greater or lesser degree depending on several factors. Its proximity to the earth and our state of emotional balance at the time are only two of those factors.
The moon pulls the energy within us like tides and it is this building of energy almost to breaking point that can leave us wondering what the heck hit us. That’s when FMS at its most intense.
We all react to the moon on a cellular level but we don’t have to allow the reaction to manifest on an emotional or physical level. We may well need to alter how or what we do around this time but with awareness we don’t need to become the victim of energetic circumstance.
When we bring awareness to the fore we bring a valuable tool to the table and one that allows us to discern just what is going on for us. It may well be that we don’t fully understand but the awareness that something has been triggered allows us to follow the trail. When we are aware that we have been triggered we can then choose more effectively how we respond to this trigger.
Without awareness we would probably have been propelled straight into a knee jerk reaction that was little if anything to do with what was actually presenting to us in the now. Often these knee jerk reactions were costly for us too. Over reaction tends not to be positive or well thought out. If they put us into defence mode it can cause all sorts of complications that aren’t so easily remedied.
With awareness we can check into what is happening and make sure that we don’t compromise our integrity, burn bridges or lose out on valuable opportunities.
Awareness brings the key that allows us to know which doors are best locked at this time and what is best postponed till a more energetically conducive time. This doesn’t mean we come to a standstill it means that we prioritise and accept that there are limitations and within the limitations we can be as productive as we need to be. Also holding fast to the truth that this will pass and we will soon be up and running at optimum speed in a few days is helpful.
My chosen area to support my healing is vibrational medicine and I work generally with Flower, Gem and other vibrational essences for support. The essence I like to work with at full moon is Selenite – I find it is gentle and illuminates from within so that I can stay clear on my core energy and take steps to rectify things if I feel I’m having a wobble. My cellular energy may be affected but my mental, emotional and spiritual bodies can hold space for any necessary fluctuations and Selenite is a great essence to facilitate this partnership.
We are not broken, we don’t need fixing. We merely need awareness and the space to flow in harmony with the tides of the moon.
Wishing you a smooth and illuminated Full Moon.
© Sally Arthurs, 2017
I work with sensitive and emotionally overwhelmed people, helping them to find ways to feel empowered, focussed and able to enjoy life even when challenged. I also have a keen interest in supporting parents of highly sensitive and autistic spectrum children. I understand the emotional overwhelm that can bring.
Taking vibrational essences are an integral part of my life and exploring what I need and what essences, can help me bring clarity to my life. They give me the choice of staying in control of how I feel and how I react. It is very empowering to be able to choose to go forward in a way that is positive and good for you. Be supported by Natures precious gifts ~ find out how Flower, Gem & Vibrational Essences can help you on your path to emotional wellbeing.