November 14, 2017

Managing your Life Cycles

Have you ever watched laundry drying in a tumble dryer? The cycle goes on and on, and the laundry pieces are slung into the air, carried on the hot stream and then dropped down to the bottom of the dryer. If you are that piece of laundry, the process goes on and on, and you probably soon feel battered and bruised, willing it all to stop.

However, the badgering will only stop once the cycle is complete. When the door is opened, the piece of laundry can be retrieved, with no wrinkles, feel cuddly warm and smelling fragrant. All the badgering was worth it for the piece of laundry.

That is just one view.

Have you seen those amusing videos of babies watching the dryer as if it is a movie? They are totally captivated and will sit there watching the laundry being thrown in the air and tumbling down for hours.

This is very similar to what happens in our lives – except that we are participants (like a piece of laundry) and not spectators.

We live our lives in cycles, just like every planet revolves around the sun in its own cycle and just like nature ensure that spring is followed by summer and night is followed by day.

If you go back and plot the graph of high and low times in your life you will be able to define the cycles. Some of these cycles are defined for us by society, for example the minimum years you spend in school. Other cycles are defined by economics (like a recession), or by political activities (like elections) and we slot into them.

The most fascinating cycles are those that we live as part of our life script and that are unique to us. For these cycles, we set the dial even before we are born and we also recruit our co-actors (parents, spouses, siblings, children, friends, colleagues) before we enter this world.

How do you recognise a cycle?

There are two tell-tale phases to help you understand where you are in your cycle.

The first phase that is easily recognisable, is when you feel there is no excitement left in your life. You simply live from one day to the next, (or from one cup of coffee to the next), waiting for something to happen to take the boredom away. You know in your heart of hearts that you cannot go back to where you came from, but you are not clear at all on where you are heading. This is often the case at the end of a relationship, or when you leave a job, or when a friendship fizzles out.

I like to refer to this as a no-mans-land or a dark corridor that you must get through, whether you like it or not. Even if you don’t know what is waiting for you on the other side, the only way is forward and this requires a lot of trust and faith. This phase also requires a lot of energy from you, so that you can prepare and be ready for the next phase in your life.

If you don’t understand that you are at the beginning of a new cycle, it is so easy to give in to the temptation to only look back and not look forward. You can get stuck in contemplating your navel and feeling sorry for yourself and you completely overlook the lovely opportunity to look back with gratitude and embrace the wisdom of your experience.

The other obvious indication of being in a cycle is when you start a new cycle. You work very hard – whether it is physical work, or future planning, or any other activity that you put your heart in, but you don’t see any results. In this case, you often feel physically exhausted for no valid reason and it is very easy to get down-hearted and feel that no matter what you do, you are not achieving anything. What is important, is not so much what you spend your energy on, but rather an awareness of how cycles work and where you are in terms of your own life cycles.

Remember that the earth was created in seven days? This is obviously not literal, but rather a metaphor for the creation process. You plan, think and create for six units of time (these could be days, weeks or even years). Then you are supposed to rest and wait, so that you can see your creation materialise during the seventh unit of time. Now can you see where the “unjustified” exhaustion comes from?

If you know about the cycles, then you will be kind to yourself, rest more and build up the anticipation, so that when things start to happen, you are ready to do a victory dance and say, “I told you so”.

If you don’t know about the cycles, it will be very tempting for you to fall into the trap of doubt, self-pity and feeling hopeless. Of course, you will get out of it – you always do – but the difference is that if you are not aware of the cycles, you take a little longer to notice the miracles and get going on the next exciting leg of your journey through life.

How can a psychic reading help you with either of these phases?

When you are at the end of a cycle, the reading will probably contain some of the wisdom that you have overlooked. You may be frustrated because you would want the psychic to tell you what is waiting for you in the future, and you won’t hear that. Instead, you may be advised to reflect and find your gratitude. Remember, you create your own future and you are the master of your destiny. If you only look back, then no psychic in the world will be able to create a rosy future on your behalf. You need to finish your cycle first and then you are ready to move forward.

When you are at the beginning of a new cycle, a psychic reading will probably be full of information about what is waiting for you. This will be based on your own creation and the options that are available for you. A good psychic will be able to read that private space and tell you about the options and you will intuitively understand your truth and what resonates with you.

Either way, your future does not lie in the cards, or in how good the psychic is when reading your private space, but rather in what you create for yourself based on your life script. A psychic can tell you that you may win the lottery, but if you don’t bother to buy the ticket, it will not happen. A psychic can tell you that you will meet a tall, dark and handsome prince and live happily ever after, but if you have not learned the wisdom from your past relationship, then your prince will be the same kind of person you left behind – probably with less hair, but with the same nature that drove you to the end of your previous relationship.

What can you do to move forward?

There are two easy steps that you can take so that you can move closer to your ideal future and make it happen. The first step is to look back with gratitude. If you still carry a lot of baggage from your past, ask yourself how you have gained from that same past. How have your bad experiences made you a stronger, wiser, better person? Embrace that wisdom and find the gratitude.

The second step is to start day-dreaming. Imagine your ideal future. Every time you do it, add more details, until you can see, feel, hear and taste that reality. Then ask yourself what small step you can take today so that you can get closer to your ideal reality.

And remember, the best place to be is in that dark corridor, because that means you are very close to seeing the beautiful and amazing fruits of your labour.

Elsabe Smit

Elsabe Smit © 7 Nov 2017

Elsabe Smit is an international psychic and presenter of The Elsabe Smit Show, a weekly wellbeing broadcast on Facebook and YouTube.